“The problem with communication … is the illusion that it has been accomplished.” G. B. Shaw The Four Death Knells for Your Relationship A psychologist, Gottman, studied thousands of married couples over decades and discovered patterns about how partners relate to each other, which can be used to predict – with 94% accuracy – which […]

“If the purpose of relationship was simply to enjoy an infatuation and make me ‘happy,’ then I’d have to get a ‘new’ relationship every two or three years.” Gary Thomas In my last blog I wrote about Gottman’s 4 horsemen (Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling). These four items are in order from least destructive to most […]

Did you ever wonder if you could take a quick (about 10 minutes) marriage assessment online to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses in a number of critical areas in your relationship? If so, please find a link below to use for such a purpose. Take it, receive your results, and come see me with your […]

Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in America and affects 40 million adults. While Anxiety disorders are very treatable, less than 40% reach out for professional help. The following are some basic characteristics of anxiety: o Feeling nervous o Inability to stop or manage worry o Excessive fear about many items o Difficulty […]

The following are some potential quick helps with depression that work for many people: o Get enough sleep. A psychiatrist once told me that if his patients got more consistent and structured sleep, he could discharge part of his caseload. o Establish a routine (Here is how you may begin the process https://open.buffer.com/daily-schedule/ ). o […]

I just had a 20 something-year-old male come to me for treatment last week suffering with incapacitating panic symptoms. We discussed several ways to treat the panic symptoms. He came back in today with the report on how he did over the last week. “I applied the first step you mentioned to an activity that […]

“In olden times, sacrifices were made at the altar, a practice which is still very much practiced.” – Helen Rowland In his book, Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas proposed the Greatest Challenge in the World: A Call to Holiness More Than Happiness. Is Christian marriage about my happiness or the happiness of someone else? Is it […]

One client asked me “what does a good relationship look like?” I pointed them to some the following characteristics. Mutual Respect: How do I treat the other person? Do I communicate she has value? Compassion: Am I genuinely concerned about what he is concerned about? Empathy: To what degree am I able to be transparent […]

Marriage counseling is a type of psychotherapy or treatment in which a therapist with educational training and clinical experience working with couples, such as a Licensed Professional Counselor, helps each person in the couple obtain more insight into their relationship, resolve conflict more productively, and improve relationship satisfaction utilizing a variety of therapeutic interventions, assessments, […]

If your teen needs counseling here are some concepts to keep in mind. Many teens can benefit from sorting out his or her thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions. A desire or need for counseling does not mean someone is “crazy,” but that someone objective to speak with may be helpful to clarify concerns. Keep in […]