Practical Tips for Great Communication in your Marriage
The very thing that draws you into marriage drives you into marital counseling. Anonymous.
Most couples say they want better communication.
In fact one study suggested that 93 percent of our communication is nonverbal. Here is the break down of the study on which components make up communication:
7 percent by the words used
38 percent by tone of voice
55 percent by the nonverbal communication such as eye contact, facial expression, and body posture.
While communication is what most couples state they want, as you can see above, much more than words are needed. In fact, what most couples mean is that they really want better connection. Verbal communication is just one of the components of connecting, and a small one at that.
Try the following for a few months and see what happens:
- Talk daily about plans.
- Talk multiple times per day
- Husbands usually need brevity from the wife, so ladies keep it a bit shorter
- Wives may use words as bridges to connect, so men learn to listen a bit more
- Trust the wisdom of your spouse.
- Value input from your spouse.
- Wives usually don’t like surprises, so run plans by her well in advance.
- Set calendar times to meet every week.
- Husbands realize there is no formula. What worked with her yesterday, may not today.
- Talk about finances.
- Talk about each other’s To-Do lists.
- Talk about each other’s career/vocation.
I can help you with each item above if you need assistance.
If the purpose of marriage was simply to enjoy an infatuation and make me ‘happy,’ then I’d have to get a ‘new’ marriage every two or three years. – Gary Thomas
I hope you find some of this information helpful to you. If you would like my assistance on your journey to reconnect, please contact me now so I can help you master these techniques and help improve your relationship.